Friday, September 17, 2010

Lessons Learned

 A milestone occurred this week!   For some time I have been wanting to join this mom's group called MOPS (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers).  This is a christian-based group where moms get together to share and support one another. I learned about it back in the winter from another mom in Lucy's music class.  The reason I hadn't joined up until this point was because the mom's are in one group and the kids go into another group;  I wasn't sure how Lucy would do since she has never been away from Brian or I (other than with family, and we are still near).  Well, I finally felt like it was time to let Lucy spread her wings a little bit.  And guess what?  She flew!  Mom---not so much.  (More about that in a minute.)

It reminded me of when we were in China and how Lucy always did so great while Brian and I worried.  (I know... welcome to parenthood.)  For 2 hours she was in a playroom with other children her age and 2 adults from the church.  Because I was having unexpected meltdowns, several mom's in my group would check on her throughout the 2 hours;  she was doing great, playing and enjoying herself!  I found out from the adults who watched her that she only cried a few times and it only lasted a minute or two.    If only I had done as well.  My reaction to leaving her for the first time really took me by surprise.  I had no idea I would get so emotional. The other mom's assured me that it was "normal" and they had gone through the same thing.   Brian cracked me up that night when he said, "and we were worried about Lucy?" 

So what lessons are to be taken from this?  One, never underestimate the resiliency of your child.  Two,  always overestimate the emotional reactions you may have to your child, so as to be adequately prepared.  Three, and most importantly...don't forget to put your trust in God.  This was a true milestone that had His handiwork written all over it.

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